Cucumber Bread with Einkorn Flour

Who knew cucumbers were the key ingredient to a moist, hearty, delicious dessert bread?

I bake with einkorn flour (ancient, unadulterated wheat). However, you can make this cucumber bread with regular wheat or gluten-free flours.  See options at end of this post.

Ever wonder why they call these sweet, scrumptious fruit and veggie concoctions “bread”.  Aren’t they more like cake? We even frost them! Whatever their label, they are a delicious, nutritious way to use up a garden load of veggies or a tree load of fruit. Speaking of which – this would likely bake up equally delicious by substituting raw apple for the veggie. Or green tomatoes? – just joking on that one. Although come to think of it…I’m game for any plausible excuse to experiment.

 On with the recipe!

Einkorn Cucumber Bread

Cucumber and zucchini are related and either can be used in this recipe. Peel and grate (or puree) the cucumber as you would zucchini. (Remove seeds from zucchini, but this is not necessary if pureeing cucumber unless seeds are tough.)

This cucumber bread is sweet, moist, and filling. Only a small piece will suffice for an afternoon snack or tasty accompaniment to a cup of tea or coffee.

Ingredients

  • 2 cups prepared cucumbers (peeled & seeded. Grating is unnecessary if you use a blender)
  • 1 cup vegetable oil
  • 1 1/4 cups sugar
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla
  • 3 eggs
  • 2 cups einkorn flour
  • 1/4 cup finely-ground flax meal
  • 1/4 teaspoon baking powder
  • 2 teaspoons baking soda
  • 3 teaspoons cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • (Optional) 1 cup chopped nuts and/or raisins

Directions

  • The easiest method is to puree the prepared cucumber with oil in a blender.
  • Add sugar and vanilla and blend well. (If you have no blender, you can grate the cucumber and mix these ingredients in a bowl).
  • Beat eggs in a large bowl.
  • Stir in the cucumber, oil, sugar, and vanilla mixture.
  • Add flour, flax meal, baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon, and salt. Mix well.
  • Add nuts and/or raisins if desired.
  • Pour into 2 greased loaf pans.
  • Bake at 350 degrees F. for 1 hour. Start checking it at 50 minutes because oven temps aren’t always set correctly.
  • When toothpick inserted in the center of the bread pulls out clean, remove from oven, set on cooling rack, cool 10 minutes and then remove from pans.
  • Consider this a dessert bread. Slice when warm and serve as is or spread with melting butter. You can slice it and freeze. Remove individual slices to thaw or toast as desired.
cucumber bread, cake

This first attempt turned out moist and tasty. Next time I will add raisins and nuts for interest.

Wheat and Gluten-Free Flour Substitution

Einkorn is low in gluten, thus requires a binder to hold ingredients. If using regular wheat flour which has gluten, omit the flax meal. If using gluten-free flour, omit the flax meal if a binder such as agar-agar or xanthan gum is already included. If not, you’ll need to add one of those or the flax meal.

A Word about Einkorn Flour

When I learned of inflammation and allergies caused by today’s wheat, I discovered einkorn flour. I substitute it into almost any recipe asking for regular wheat flour, and add 2 Tablespoons of finely-ground flax meal per cup of flour to compensate for the lack of sufficient gluten. The end result is a hearty texture that will rise, but not as dramatically as with regular wheat. People frequently ask me “what did you do to get this texture and flavor?” and the answer is the einkorn flour and flax meal combination. Interested? Check out the posts listed here –  most of my einkorn recipes can also be made with regular wheat or gluten-free flours. I purchase my einkorn flour from Jovial Foods, who also offer gluten-free flour mixes.

Einkorn Recipes and Information

Hints for Baking with Einkorn Flour     Easy Einkorn Soda Bread     Vegan Einkorn Oatmeal Breadmaker Bread     Easy Einkorn Yellow Cake     Wacky Vegan Chocolate Cake with Einkorn Flour (a real hit – absolutely the most moist and delicious chocolate cake ever invented!)

Does my baking always turn out perfectly? Uh…..nope. Here’s proof…

Always be ready to try something different! There are new discoveries waiting for you.

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Hints for Baking with Einkorn Wheat – Updated

This is an update of an earlier post, published on January 8, 2016.

Thanks, everyone! My einkorn flour postings have piqued quite a bit of interest. I have experimented with it various ways until I think I’ve found what works well for me. Well, for now, anyway.

I’m one of those people who seldom makes a recipe the same way twice. I keep trying new ideas. Some work. Some are hysterically stupid funny (my editorializing there). Some are brilliant. Some are embarrassingly inept like in my “Gotcha” post about one of my Einkorn Soda Bread baking days.

I love baking. Cookies, cakes, pies and breads. When I learned how harmful our current wheat flour options can be, I was sorely disappointed. I tried gluten-free flour mixes for a while and they were a helpful alternative, but they lacked the substance, body, and flavor I sought. My husband described my gluten-free bread as “paper towel flavored.”

I Discovered Einkorn Wheat!

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Einkorn “Frosty Window Pane” cookies baked in a waffle iron.

Einkorn is an original un-adulterated ancient species of wheat that is low in gluten and its gluten is readily digested. Similar in flavor to today’s wheat, it carries none of regular wheat’s challenging side effects. The trick to baking with einkorn is to find a way to hold the ingredients together, and to accept that it just doesn’t rise as readily. Finding the right binder was a challenge for me. The usual binding agents in gluten-free flours, used in lieu of wheat’s gluten – such as xanthan gum, are slimy and cause gas eruptions for many people. It’s no fun to enjoy a slice of rich, moist chocolate cake, and then spend the rest of the day running away from polite company into another room to de-gas when your digestion rebels. It’s like eating bean chili at a meditation retreat – you just don’t do it if you want people to enjoy your company.

I Discovered the Benefits of Flax Meal as a Binder.

Looking for a substitute binding ingredient, I remembered the binding benefits of flax meal. When I was totally vegan I used it as a substitute for eggs. It holds ingredients together. It adds texture (fiber!). And it is packed with omega 3 essential fatty acids and lignans.  (Although I’ve heard baking destroys that – I haven’t researched that further). I’ve not seen flax meal recommended elsewhere, but when I use it, I can use most regular wheat baking recipes without adjusting the liquid or other factors such as are recommended on other einkorn baking sites. (The exception is baking with yeast.) In my earlier post, I recommended adjustments that I have since discarded. With flax meal, they simply are no longer necessary.

Note: the flax meal needs to be finely ground in order to absorb the liquid easily. I’ve found Carrington Farms Organic Milled Flax Seeds are the perfect ingredient (and no, I’m not paid to advertise them.) You can find it at WalMart or online. Many of the more well-known flax meals available at local health food stores are a bit too coarse for my liking. When necessary, I have used them, but first I grind them more finely in my Vita-mix or coffee grinder.

Hints for Baking with Einkorn Flour

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My “Wacky Vegan Chocolate Cake” recipe made with einkorn flour and flax meal.

Einkorn flour creates a denser, coarser texture, yet from my perspective, that makes it hearty! Just as when you switch to gluten-free flours, you will need to learn how to work with this new flour in your own baking. It responds differently than the typical wheat flour, but following these suggestions, I think you’ll be delighted with your results.

  • Have realistic expectations. Low in gluten, this flour doesn’t rise as smoothly, and the texture is not as refined. It’s flavor is subtly nut-like, and the color is a beautiful golden.
  • You can substitute einkorn for regular wheat, or gluten-free, flour in most recipes, cup for cup. The exception is recipes calling for yeast as an ingredient.
  • For each 1 cup of einkorn flour, add 2 Tablespoons of finely ground flax meal.
flax meal

Flax meal

  • Because its golden color browns early in the baking process, einkorn can look baked before it is actually done. Experiment with this in your own recipes, but I usually let cakes and bread loaves bake 5-8 minutes longer. The typical test of inserting a toothpick into the center that pulls out clean works well. I like my cookies chewy, so I bake them the usual length of time. Bake them 2-3 minutes longer if you like them crisper.

Einkorn Bread Hints

Einkorn bread is best made with a dough texture that is sort of “sticky”. If you try to create a soft spongy dough, using the typical amount of flour you use with traditional wheat flours, the resulting loaf will be heavy and dense. Because there is minimal gluten in einkorn flour, when making yeast breads with it you don’t knead much. In fact, you can just “stir” the thick dough, or work it in the bowl with your hands to mix it well. Let it rise. Stir/mix it again, place in oiled baking pans and let it double in size a second time before baking per your recipe’s instructions.

Making any bread, the end result is influenced by air pressure and humidity. Bread can rise more on humid days. In the 1970s I baked all of our breads – loaves, hamburger and hot dog buns, bread sticks, cinnamon rolls…and did so on rainy days when I could get an extra loaf or two from the batch. From time to time my family ruefully reminds me of this ancient rite I practiced in the good old days. I used whole wheat then, but wouldn’t even consider that now.

Using a bread machine

bread, einkorn

Vegan Einkorn-Oatmeal bread loaf

See my Vegan Einkorn-Oatmeal Breadmaker Bread recipe here.  When using the “dough” setting, start your bread maker. Then 10 minutes into the cycle, check the dough. If it is too sticky, add a little flour in small increments until it no longer sticks. A little sticking is to be expected, but you don’t want dough-webs stuck all over the container. If it is too dry and dense – looking and thudding around like a rock – add small increments of the nut or dairy milk until it softens up. Remove when the dough cycle is finished, knead lightly, and place in oiled pans to rise.

There are so me Einkorn Bread Machine recipes online, but I suggest you experiment for yourself. I find that if I use the complete machine cycle with this bread, it totally over-works it. If using the complete process, use the “basic white” setting. Follow the above instructions by checking and adjusting the dough 10 minutes into the initial cycle, then let the machine handle the rest.

Or try my version of this yeast-free, no-knead, Easy Einkorn Soda Bread recipe. You can find more recipes on the Jovial website. I referred to their site often when first experimenting.

Einkorn bread, jan 2016 1

This loaf of einkorn soda bread is an example of how homemade bread doesn’t need to be perfect to be delicious. This loaf had irregular texture, the top baked up lopsided, and I could have baked this one a little longer, but it was moist and hearty. I served it with an evening dinner for guests whose only complaint was that they ate so much bread, they didn’t have room for desert! (Yes, we did get to that later on…)

If your bread “fails” don’t despair. Even if it comes out looking sad or disgusting, I’ll bet it will taste amazing. Pat yourself on the back for giving it a go! For sure, the aroma of baking bread wafting through your home is worth the effort, isn’t it? Use your “failed” bread to make bread pudding, or cut it into cubes, dry it, and use for croutons. Or throw it at anyone who makes fun of how it looks.

Purchasing Einkorn Flour

I haven’t found einkorn flour or einkorn whole grains locally, so I purchase mine online from Jovial Foods. A husband and wife team who sought healthy food for their gluten sensitive child, they brought out awareness of Einkorn flour and offer recipes and suggestions on their website. Their organic einkorn comes from Italy. They also offer einkorn pastas which we love, and other gluten-free grain products. I’ve recently learned einkorn is also grown organically in Washington State on the Bluebird Grain farm. I’ll check them out on my next order. Although einkorn cost more than today’s wheat flour,  the health benefits and taste are well worth it.

I appreciate all of you who are experimenting with new, healthy foods, and blogging them so the rest of us can learn! It’s always an adventure!

“Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it!” 

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Candy Bar Defense: How Trust is Eroded

The last candy bar in a family’s stash was reported missing on January 27.  Check out these statements of defense from the alleged perpetrator. Sound familiar?

February 6: No. I did not eat the last chocolate candy bar. I don’t eat candy. You can trust me on this.

February 18: Yes, I did eat a piece of Grandma’s Christmas fudge last December, but only one piece. I only ate it so she wouldn’t feel bad if I didn’t. It’s important to make Grandma happy.

March 11: Okay, someone saw me holding the same brand of candy bar, but it wasn’t the one in question. I didn’t eat that one.

March 23: Yes, someone saw me getting the candy bar from the snack box up high on top the refrigerator, but then I dropped it and couldn’t find it. So, I am not the one who ate it.  

April 4: Although the wrapper was found in the trash can in my bedroom, I don’t know how it got there. Maybe someone else dumped it there. Possibly to put the blame on me. Why don’t you look for that person instead of wasting time trying to accuse me?

April 14: True, someone posted a pic on Facebook of me standing in the alley behind the house with friends, eating the same brand of candy bar. You can’t prove it was the same candy as in question. The only reason I ate that one was so it wouldn’t go to waste. There are starving children all over the world. It wouldn’t be responsible if someone didn’t use it and I was the only socially responsible person in the group who was willing to step forward to eat it.

May 27: Yes, there are three emails sent to my friends asking them to not speak of the candy bar eating issue. I only sent these emails out to protect them from suffering through all this ridiculous, unfounded questioning. I didn’t think those emails were relevant to this case.  I send emails to lots of friends. *Why are all of you persecuting me like this?

June 16: Alright. I ate the freakin’ candy bar. What’s the big deal? Have you ever seen how the last piece of pie in the pan gets consumed? Everyone sneaks into the kitchen, slices off a very small sliver, cleans the knife, puts it away, and leaves behind the smaller, remaining piece. Over time that last slice dwindles down to a skinny sliver, mostly crust by now. Then that disappears too. I ate the **candy bar for a good cause. I was just trying to help clear out unused inventory. That’s the responsible thing to do.

July 4: No, I didn’t sneak out the last beer in the fridge and I don’t understand why you don’t believe me. You can trust me on this.

AUTHOR COMMENTS:

*NOTE 1: Any assumption that this article is commentary on our current political arena is purely coincidental. You can trust me on this.

**NOTE 2: This author does not eat chocolate. No candy bars were consumed in the writing of this article. Any direct or indirect reference to eating chocolate in my posts is merely coincidental. You can trust me on this. Snicker…  Sub-note: That word is in reference to a type of chuckle, not a brand of candy bar. It is not to be construed as my preference of candy bars if I ever do decide to eat one in the future.

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4 Anti-Virus Protections for Life Downloads

What do you download into your life?

I am talking about from the world around you. Negative headlines? Latest juicy gossip? Fear-mongering? OPO Virus (Other People’s Opinions)? Movies and videos with violence? Conditioned social beliefs and customs? Unwanted obligations? Toxic off-gassing from drama trauma?

If you knew these downloads carry crippling and debilitating viruses to wipe your self-esteem and self-confidence files clean, wouldn’t you be more selective with downloads? Would you set up defense systems to flash on your awareness screen saying, “Warning! This download may infect your life!”

Strange how we resist invasive debris entering our electronic computers, yet fail to monitor input into the most valuable computer we own – Ourselves!

Set up a Life Anti-Virus Security System with these 4 practices:

1. Ask, “Does this information empower myself and others?”

A “yes” answer suggests acceptance of the download. A “no” answer warns of eventual damage to your system. Dis-empowering information carries an energetic signature that lowers cellular vibration, leading to an unhealthy body/mind environment. It leads to invalidating thoughts about yourself and others. It invites the mind to focus on negatives. What we focus upon will expand in our life. Hit the delete button for “no” responses.

2. Check in with your throat, chest, or gut.

If information or a situation prompts you to feel more open, trusting, expanded – then it’s safe to download. If it causes clenching, tightness, discomfort – let it go. It’s filled with energy static that will scramble your body/mind wiring. Delete it and wipe the history clean.

3. Does it cause emotional, mental or physical discomfort, but your mind tries to rationalize acceptance?

When information or a situation seems “not quite right” but logic justifies it, there is something unknown hidden within that will cause problems. Your intuition and wisdom are waving a large caution sign to not download. There are a myriad of reasons why this may be so. Perhaps timing isn’t right, you need to focus elsewhere right now, the right resources aren’t ready, it will stir up an issue you aren’t ready to handle, or it carries hidden trauma within it. We are intuitive souls who utilize our minds in order to connect with the physical world. Wisdom rules. Logic assists when called upon. Logic doesn’t rule.  Problems connecting with your wisdom? Sit in the silence, meditate, ask for guidance and sleep on it.  when the mind ceases churning, answers can arise.

4. If you accidentally download a virus that begins infecting your system, delete it immediately and then repair damage.

Don’t berate yourself. Everyone downloads trash at times. What matters is how you  respond once it is recognized. Most of us have been infiltrated with viruses for years. Their infections can be so deeply embedded in our body/mind computer system – we aren’t sure where they end and we begin.

Start from where you are now. Clean up your life files today. Update to You:Version 1111. As you practice with your improved system, some old emotional/mental files that are no longer compatible with your new version will become obsolete. Other files may be damaged but over time you can learn to mitigate effects. Find “Life Computer Hack Repair for Dummies” books, attend Life Computer Development seminars, or seek specialist who speaks your programming language to help you move forward.

Copy this as a reminder:“Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it!” 


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People Are Buying My Books – Thank You!

Like many of you, I’m shy about sharing my successes while big on congratulating others. I’m going to stretch my comfort zone for a moment to celebrate something with you.

An average of 10 of my books now sell each month on Amazon!

While this doesn’t make me a best-seller, or have me rolling in cash, it does mean the information is in circulation – entertaining, helping, empowering, and guiding people.

It takes courage to put our offerings out into the public eye.  Each time I publish a book or post a blog article, I get to practice sharing without being attached to the results. Put it out there for anyone who can benefit. Allow myself to be a conduit for something to come through. Give with no expectation of gratitude. Do it because writing brings me joy and sharing it feels like the right thing to do.

Every action I take in life is a practice. It can expand who I am, stir up trouble, or make a difference in someone else’s life. But if I want to live a full life, sometimes I have to put my shoulder behind it and push.

I hope you have the courage and enthusiasm to put your gifts on life’s table. Do it for yourself. Do it “just in case” someone out there needs it. Do it because you are part of life’s plan and we need you here.

How does life get any better than this?

“Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it.”


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Where Choices Take Us

I woke up this morning with thoughts about life choices flowing into my mind.  So I created this accompanying image as a reminder and filed it away.

Then got a call from a friend who just lost his wife. What was on his mind? How to make the right choices for his future. Then came a morning’s consultation. Topic she wanted to talk about – choices. Next I received an email from a consult later today – “Can we talk about making the right choices?”

Choices are floating around in the ether today.

1. Choices are based on current information.
We never have all facts for a perfect choice. Sometimes facts confuse as much as clarify. Yet we can only weigh what we know at the moment and decide. We do the best we can at this moment in time.

2. Every choice set us in a new direction.
The road can be smooth; often it is rocky. Even when we feel confident we have decided correctly, the journey may be filled with detours and pitfalls. I’ve never chosen a road yet that took me straight to the goal. Along the way I’ve had to detour, regroup, take a deep breath, and continue on. Eventually I arrive at a destination which may or may not be the one I set out to find. Each journey brings its own surprises.

3. We can re-choose.
Sometimes our choice wasn’t the best one. That’s okay. We aren’t stuck with what we set out to do. We can drop it, start off in another direction, or branch off toward an entirely new target. Maybe circumstances change or new information arises. Don’t remain stuck in a “wrong” choice.

4. The “wrong” choice may be the right one.
When a friend graduated from college, she mulled over where to live next: California or near family in New York? She chose California. She towed a moving trailer across country to her new life, arrived there, decided it was the wrong decision, and without unpacking, drove all the way back across country to New York. She is confident that her California choice was necessary to confirm she should move to New York where she has happily lived for 23 years. Without that journey, she would never have settled down. She had to give it a try.

It’s not so much what we choose, as it is how we live with our choice.

Make it work if we can. Make a new choice if necessary. Staying stuck, making no choice, is a choice to be at the mercy of chance. Making a choice puts us in charge. It’s only when we are in motion that we can adjust. A sitting car can’t change directions. A driven car has momentum to adjust. To get control, you have to get life in gear.

What choice do you face? Weigh your options. Decide. Act. Observe. Learn. Adjust.

Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it. 


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5 Steps to Controlling Myself

There are a few people I have no control over. 7.3 billion to be exact.

I keep myself pretty busy just working on me. I’ve a long list of areas to maintain. Here are a few to get us started.

1) Self Talk.
What we think and say to ourselves all day long is pretty darn important. Negative messages inherited from parents, a school teacher, a coach, a haughty look someone gave us on the street – these can fill our mind until there is no room for possibilities. When negative self-talk pops up, immediately replace it with your choice of positive thoughts. In time, you train your mind to ignore the negatives and to search for positives. Positives are proven to enhance health, relationships, and fulfillment.

Much appreciation to the unknown source of this image

2) Self Image.
Our self image is created by a series of experiences that have built into a full-blown self-identity. Most happened in formative years, perceived through the inexperienced eyes of a child. Now that you are an adult, you do not have to accept that accumulated data as the truth. You can review and remove pieces you don’t want. “I don’t measure up” is a tough one. Measure up to whom? To what? Who controls the measuring stick? Who is taking a poll? Why should we care? Once you recognize you can never live up to other’s expectations, create your ideal self, and then act to meet your own standards. Be gentle with yourself in this process. You are developing a new skill set of thought, so perfection isn’t required here. Just lots of practice.

3) Interaction with Others
How we act with others creates a boomerang effect. What we give out will come back. If we don’t like what is coming at us, the solution lies within what we are expressing out. There are a plethora of areas to work with here. If I am constantly being taken advantage of – how can I set better personal boundaries? If I don’t have any friends – how can I be more friendly? If my partners are demeaning – how can I be more assertive in relationships? If I need a partner to feel complete – how can I gain a sense of self-completion so I am not dependent upon partners? If a pattern of relationship problems repeats – how can I break my beliefs or behavior that creates the pattern?

4) Non-Resistance/Acceptance
Acceptance isn’t giving up. It’s recognizing what cannot be changed and then setting about making it tolerable.
“That which we resist will persist”. When we see something we don’t like, we tend to look for additional, reinforcing proof that it’s wrong. We even go so far as to find others who agree so we can suffer together with full justification. This is guaranteed to add weight to our misery. Some things can be changed; others cannot. Weigh the circumstances, change what we can, and then let it go.

5) Be the person you want others to be.
Want more friendly people in your life? Be more friendly. Want more abundance in your life? Share more of what you do have. Want more recognition at work? Give more recognition to your co-workers and colleagues. Want people to be more welcoming at social events? Be the one who is welcoming to others at social events. Want fewer complaining people in your life? Cease complaining to others.
What you express will expand in your life – negative or positive. I’ve found positive works pretty darn good.

The most difficult person I’ve ever had to handle is ME! I’ve set a goal to be perfect before I die. This requires I live at least until 3,000 years of age.

Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it. 


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Review: … This is the BEST non-fiction book I have read in years. I could not put it down! The story is super engaging, Eleni, the main character, is so wise and inspiring. The story of a community based on deep respect, for the earth, for nature, and for each other, gives me hope in these times of corruption, chaos and extreme unrest… more reviews


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Whose Life Do You Manage?

We can spend hours conjuring up ways to manage other people’s lives.

How they “should” dress. Behave. Work. Sing. Dance. Relate. Clean or don’t clean house. Dress. Drive. Raise their kids. Eat. (Feel free to fill in your own words here…)

Time to give it up.

We didn’t arrive on planet Earth to manage all of humanity. Only ourselves. I don’t know about you, but I can keep myself radically occupied just trying to handle my own choices.

Life has taught me some things.

Everyone gets to make their own choices, even if we think their choices are wrong. It is not our place to judge another – they have the right to experience and learn from their choices. To inhibit another’s options is to inhibit their learning experiences.

Other people’s directions on how we should live our life usually misses the mark. They don’t understand the whole picture. We don’t have the skill, resources, or inclination to do it their way. Balance comes when we choose the boundaries on who and what takes place in our own life.

First, I need to honestly assess myself. Tend my own garden instead of weeding my neighbor’s. Pluck the plank from my own eye before I remove the speck from another’s eye. Be the change I wish to see in the world.

It’s fascinating that when I work on myself, circumstances around me seem to improve. When I get out of the way, other people sort things out themselves quite nicely.

When we let go living other’s lives, we have more time and energy for our own growth and pursuits.

I’m giving up being general manager of the Universe. I have too many things I want to do with my own life. How about you?

Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it. 


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Ellie Hadsall is an author and director of Cosmic Gathering, dedicated to unconditional support for your transformational journey.


Ellie’s Latest Book: PATHWALKER  (see side bar —–>)

Review: … This is the BEST non-fiction book I have read in years. I could not put it down! The story is super engaging, Eleni, the main character, is so wise and inspiring. The story of a community based on deep respect, for the earth, for nature, and for each other, gives me hope in these times of corruption, chaos and extreme unrest… more reviews


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Share the Care

Sometimes it’s distracting to enthuse about so many things. Writing. Baking. Gardening. Making homemade wine. Creating. Bursting into song at the slightest provocation. Exchanging corny puns with a friend. Sneaking bites of chocolate behind my own back.

It is sad that so many people don’t experience a zest for life. Depression, sense of failure, lack of self-validation, distressing life situations, unexpected illness, lack of inspiration, and despair run rampant in many lives.

If each of us reaches out with a smile and word of encouragement to one person each day, what a difference it can make!

Many a difficult day in my life was turned around by a simple gesture of kindness on the part of strangers.

Those moments when we don’t have the where-with-all to demonstrate we care, are the exact moments when doing so can shift our world. As we offer, something greater flows through us, healing us as it passes.

Look for ways to reach out.

Hand out candy bars to street workers. Set out a package of cookies for the trash collectors. Put a box of chocolate samplers in the mailbox for your postal worker. Distribute socks to the homeless woman standing on the corner. Give an extra-large tip to a hard-working server. Smile at people even if you don’t feel like smiling. (It takes fewer muscles to smile than it does to frown and a smile shifts your body energy up a notch.) Allow another driver in front of you at the freeway exit. Text a brief hello to a friend.  Toss birdseed into your yard or peanuts for the squirrels. Volunteer at the local animal rescue facility.

Don’t forget to care about you.

Buy flowers for your dining table. Take a long soaking bath (although this may mean forcing yourself to scrub the tub first). Watch that awesome movie that no one else likes. Walk in the grass barefoot. Put on your favorite music and dance on the furniture. Eat popcorn for breakfast. Go listen to a local band playing at the park. Join a meet-up group with similar interests to get yourself back into circulation. Spend daily time in prayer or meditation. Get out into nature – go for a walk or sit under a tree. Join a yoga or tai chi class. Eat more veggies. Begin a list of things you are grateful for and commit to adding at least one item every day.

Know that I am thankful for you. I  appreciate you taking a moment to read what I share. Writing feeds my soul. May you also find something on this day that puts a twinkle in your eye!

Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it. 


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Ellie Hadsall is an author and director of Cosmic Gathering, dedicated to unconditional support for your transformational journey.


Ellie’s Latest Book: PATHWALKER  (see side bar —–>)

Review: … This is the BEST non-fiction book I have read in years. I could not put it down! The story is super engaging, Eleni, the main character, is so wise and inspiring. The story of a community based on deep respect, for the earth, for nature, and for each other, gives me hope in these times of corruption, chaos and extreme unrest… more reviews


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A Perfect Life Unglued

On a steaming summer day in 1977, I was walking across my living room when it hit me.

I was never going to create a perfect life.

I’d been trying for years to get everything in order so I could just chill out with an awesome life, but things kept getting out of line. Unexpected bills. Emotional debris. A body that wouldn’t snap back into shape after birthing my second baby. An air conditioner breaking down in 102 degree Texas heat but no money to repair it. A neighborhood boy peddling his Big Wheels across my carefully tended marigold bed. One durn thing after another and they kept lining up to roll into my life each time I thought I had a grip on things. Troubles. Problems. Obstacles. Detours. Insurmountables.

My realization – that trouble would be inevitable – hit me like a ton of bricks.

And then a second realization hit. I could relax my grip on a perfect life!!! I could “get real”, aim for greater things, do the best I could with what life brought me, learn new insights, and that was enough.

I’ve been on constant watch ever since, to allow life to swerve and surprise, knowing each trouble offers one more chance to become more.

A wonderful caveat to this is to realize other people don’t need to be perfect either, so I can give up trying to manage all of humankind to meet my preferences.

What a relief! Now, about that neighbor who hasn’t cut his grass in two months …

Take life into your own hands and make it happen. It’s your life; Lead it. 


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Ellie Hadsall is an author and director of Cosmic Gathering, dedicated to unconditional support for your transformational journey.

Ellie’s Latest Book: PATHWALKER  (see side bar —–>)

Review: … This is the BEST non-fiction book I have read in years. I could not put it down! The story is super engaging, Eleni, the main character, is so wise and inspiring. The story of a community based on deep respect, for the earth, for nature, and for each other, gives me hope in these times of corruption, chaos and extreme unrest… more reviews


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